Roy Kirkwood

Dealing With Jealousy, Anger, and Control in Relationships

Posted by Roy Kirkwood | Mar 17, 2013 | Blogging, Encouraging, Inspiration, Life, Uncategorized |

I had a Friend today ask me for my thoughts os this subject and as I was trying to come up with something I remembered I did a paper on this subject in my sociology class. I would to thank everyone who helped me on this paper I did not realize how helpful it is until today. I PRAY THIS HELPS SOMEONE LIKE IT HELPED ME. Overcoming jealousy is like changing any emotional reaction or behavior. It begins with awareness. Awareness allows you to see that the projected stories in your mind are not true. When you have this clarity you no longer react to the scenarios that your mind imagines. Jealousy and anger are emotional reactions to believing scenarios in your mind that are not true. By changing what you believe you change what your imagination is projecting and you can eliminate these destructive emotional reactions. Even when there is justification for the reaction, jealousy and anger are not beneficial ways to deal with the situation and get what we want. Trying to change anger or jealousy once you are in the emotion is like trying to control a car skidding on ice. Your ability to handle the situation is greatly improved if you can steer clear of the hazard before we get there. This means addressing the beliefs that trigger jealousy instead of attempting to control your...

Dont Live By Your Regrets

Posted by Roy Kirkwood | Mar 13, 2013 | Blogging, Encouraging, Grateful, Inspiration, Life, Uncategorized |

We are all busy. Life happens. There’s always something to distract us from getting around to certain things we know we should do soccer practice. Work. Home renovations. Getting that next big promotion. And with the explosion of always-on smartphones and tablets delivering a fire hose of urgent emails, not to mention Twitter and facebook (FB), in recent years, things have only gotten busier. In the backs of our minds, we know we’re neglecting some stuff we should do. But we never get around to it. Then, something happens. A good friend or loved one – maybe close to us in age – drops dead unexpectedly. We begin to think about what our biggest regrets would be if we were suddenly sitting on our death bed. Here is a list of the 25 biggest ones we’ll probably have. The question is, are you going to change anything this afternoon or tomorrow in light of this list? Or are you going to go back to your busy life? 1. Working so much at the expense of family and friendships. How do you balance meeting that short-term deadline at work and sitting down for dinner with your family? It’s tough. There are always worries. “What will my boss and co-workers think? It’s not a big deal if I stay late this one time. I’ll make it up...

Relationships In Your Life Worth Keeping

Posted by Roy Kirkwood | Mar 8, 2013 | Blogging, Encouraging, Inspiration, Life, Religious, Uncategorized |

Text: Philippians 2:19-23 ( new international version) Title: Relationships in your life worth keeping Intro: PAUL’S CONCERN (verse 19) PAUL’S COMPLIMENT (verse 20-22) PAUL’S COMMITMENT (verse 23-24) Main Points: 1. RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE VALUABLE ARE WORTH KEEPING. 2. RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE CREDITABLE ARE WORTH KEEPING 3. RELATIONSHIPS THAT ARE SERVICEABLE ARE WORTH KEEPING Conclusion: God sent his Best __________________________________________________________________________________________________ “IF YOU WERE ARRESTED FOR BEING A CHRISTIAN WHAT IT BE ENOUGE EVIDENCE TO PROVE YOU GUILTY” “BE CARFUL OF LIVING LIFE AND YOU ALWAYS WANT COMPLIMENTS BUT YOU CANT NEVER GIVE” “BE CAREFUL OF NOT BEING ABLE TO COMPLIMENT OTHER PEOPLE TO OTHER PEOPLE” “No matter what situation you are in now your faith should say I’m coming out of this” “INSTEAD OF GETTING PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE THAT ARE VALUABLE, CREDITABLE AND SERVICEABLE HERE THE PEOPLE WE GET ——————– ————— we get people who are unavailable————- we get people that are undesirable———————— we get people who are dishonorable—————- ——– we get people who are unpredictable——————–we get people who are unmanageable————–unreasonable——- unstable” “EVERYBODY YOU CALL YOUR FRIEND IS NOT VALUABLE” “BE CARFUL LOOKING FOR PEOPLE LIKE THIS AND YOU AINT LIKE THIS——————— BECUASE YOU GENERALLY ATTRACT THE TYPE OF PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE”...

Time Management That Blesses You and God

Posted by Roy Kirkwood | Jan 12, 2013 | Uncategorized |

To fully understand this you gave to read the text from the bible. Text: luke 13:10-13 Title: Time Management That Blesses You and God intro: Her location, situation, transformation 1.Making time for decipleship from Christ will bless you and God 2.Making time for fellowship with Christ will bless you and God 3.Making time for worship of Christ will bless you God Conclusion: The Chioce is yours Whats amazing that all thou she had a situation she still at church been sick for 18 years but she said in spite of my challenge. AND THE LORD WANTS US TO UNDERSTAND THAT REGARDLESS OF YOUR NAME AND YOUR PAIN HE CAN PROVIDE HEALING FOR YOU. if you gonna come out of DEPT ITS YOU CHOICE, if you gonna stop doing what you you not suppose to be doing its GONNA BE BY...

10 Things To Be Thankful For.

Posted by Roy Kirkwood | Nov 26, 2012 | Blogging, Encouraging, Grateful, Inspiration, Life, Religious, Uncategorized |

As Thanksgiving has pasted, I think it’s important to take a gratitude inventory. A number of things in life can make us uncomfortable or even a little miffed. But sometimes they are gifts in disguise. With that in mind, here are my top ten things to be thankful for. 1. Be thankful for growing older. Not everyone gets this opportunity. Aging with health and grace is a rare and beautiful gift. 2. Be thankful that you can read these words. It is a very sad thing that many people do not have the ability to read. 3. If you have to wait in line at the supermarket for your Thanksgiving dinner or any dinner, be thankful that you can afford what you want to eat and have a convenient place to buy it. We are all aware of the many people waiting in line to have a meal at the local homeless shelter. 4. Be thankful for the ability to pay your bills, even if it means that you have to give up some things that you want. Remember that having basic needs met is a luxury for many people. 5. If you have to get up before dawn to get to work, be thankful that you get to see another sunrise and have a job to go to. Think about what it would be like if you slept everyday until noon and spent the rest...